The beginnings of the next book. Love your comments and questions. I touch on a bunch of things I will elaborate on later.
Love has become a formula and romance has disappeared and a
tell tale sign is the fact married couples often find isolation in a
relationship. We can say I will try and be romantic but again it is futile as
romance is not something we plan it is not something we organize or do it just
happens. It happens in a married relationship as we lay aside distractions and
allow Holy Spirit life to kindle a fresh romance in life. It can be easy to say
relationships change and they do. When we are first married there are not usually
kids, then kids arrive and then the kids leave and those changes require adaptation
as a couple. But again it must come back to romance. I can look at someone I
love and marginalize the romance for a host of reasons but in reality when I
make excuses or reasons for change all I am saying is romance is lacking, dying
or dead. That does not mean we do not love each other it simply highlights the
need for romance.
You see I can make a thousand reasons why Gods love is
demanding and offensive. I am busy with life and responsibilities and God will
need to fit with that as best he can. It is not that I do not love Him but I am
taking care of the babies he gave me in this life. I fail in such an instance
to see I have orphaned my heart and become the height of self righteousness.
That may have been my defense and my way to survive but in romance there is no
place for individuality. Anyone who stands alone will ultimately fall, so the
issue becomes how deep will we surrender our life’s paths and responsibilities.
Remember the romance of the past and never let it go. It can
and will only be maintained through the Holy Spirit but today romance has been
substituted for so many foreign adulterous ways. We have made romance about
love and now make statements like “I do this because I love you”. But again in
our self righteousness of love we cannot grasp the fact our lover does not ask
for love, romance must be given.
It is in the marriage of people we understand that romance
is the Holy Spirit wooing us. When we break that down to love we have become
self righteous and self fulfilling. The need in us is greatest and we cannot
grasp the fact the holy Spirit is saying yes I love you but above all my
language is romance and the only way to enter romance is to be interrupted in
life. When romance flows the whole world is meaningless and now in that
strength of romantic love the two become one in love. Love flows out of romance,
romance does not flow out of love. If romance dwindles then carnal love or self
righteous love fills the void.
Just as the church is on a path to perfect love they separate
from the romance of the Spirit. They do so much they think pleases God but in
reality god is appalled at the fact they are loving Him with a carnal love. It
becomes increasingly obvious that carnal love is devoid of romance. We do
things to please our love and then get frustrated when it is not seen as
enough. We get frustrated and the screams within that are silent get louder as
we make sacrifice to show love. The problem is that sacrifice was and is never
required. When romance is the forefront of a relationship no interruption is
required or demanded. Demands are not made but rather two people become enraptured
in passionate admiration of the other.
In romance duties are neglected but somehow they get done as
time does not matter. I think of a young couple where homework took 4 hours it
was done in 30 minutes as they had to be together.
When love replaces romance we have partnerships that are
self focused. Just as in Churchianity today people feed the poor, street witness,
tithe or give money and perform a host
of love actions to God. They fail to grasp after the day of Pentecost the
relationship between God and man became about romance and you can only ever be
romantic when you are tuned into the Spirit of your love. This carries through
exactly to marriage. So much of what we do is about love in marriage. We try to
love people the way we want to be loved and if the partner is a different
personality type then all we do is alienate the one we love. We pour more love
in as do the self righteous in religion and frustration follows. Frustration
with ourselves and frustration with those around our lives and the objects of our
love. Like churchianity our marriages have become devoid of romance in a fast
paced romance less world.
In such a world romance has become about self gratification.
I give to get and men use romance for sex and women use romance for self worth
and in reality they have failed to understand you can’t understand romance. I
know a man who rode his bicycle 7 hours to be with his girl and when he arrived
the family was so mad they left and he had to ride his bicycle another 7 hours
home again. He would have done it again the next day just for 10 minutes with
his romance.
Now yes we can say life must go on and if we all lived in a
romantic state nothing would get done but that is just a flat out lie and
deception of self righteousness. You see in romance people come together to do
so they can be together and the actions become an outflow of romance instead of
a struggle to get romance. Like those inside churchianity thinking works show I
love God. They fail to grasp being filled with the Holy Spirit and the fact
when I am filled life becomes a works of romance not a labor of love. Many
today have made their relationship with God a labor of love instead of a work
of romance. I have had churchianity tell
me we have to do the works the bible speaks about and fail to grasp the bible
after Pentecost is not about works (or a labor of love) it is about romance of
the Spirit and works just happen from that. Our works are a thermometer of romance
in our lives not because we do them out of love but because they are who we are
in romance.
So I do not feed the poor because I love Jesus but rather out of the romance of His spirit
united with my spirit I feed the poor when it is in His romance to do it. Think
of marriage as the same often we strive to show love or strive to not neglect
the responsibilities that came from romantic love. We fail to grasp romance calling
telling us just BE and when we just BE love is and things will get done. Now it
is not work but rather it is pleasure. As two lovers come together in romance
the impossible is achieved as the two become one flesh as the bible says.
Romance is missing in many of our married relationships and
that carries through to our relationship with God. We have slipped into a labor
of love at the expense of romance. The new testament church after Pentecost is
summed up in one word ROMANCE and such is a Godly marriage. As koinonia is
revealed in me, my marriage will reignite or further ignite with romantic passion.
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